10 Ways to Command Influence
Seek to Influence, but not to Control
Accept the reality that there are certain factors that are out of your hands. Besides, those who come across as overly controlling often eventually get undercut.
Never Convey Uncertainty About Your Idea
Know how to convey confidence even when you harbor some doubts. Your self-assuredness will increase others’ impressions of your capabilities. Do not, however, allow this to lapse into arrogance.
Don’t Obsess About “Winning” Arguments
Even if you’re right, people will grow weary of constantly needing to go toe-to-toe with you.
Don’t be Overly Critical
There is no totally right or wrong path in 99% of decisions. Influential leaders can see things aren’t always black and white and can forge alliances with others.
Give Praise, but Only If It’s Honest
Praise only works when people feel that you sincerely believe in them.
Embrace Diverse Perspectives
When you do, you gain insights into how many parties think, enhancing your ability to persuade them to do what you need them to do.
Smile
It’s far, far easier to say “Yes” to a grin instead of a grimace.
Remember Names
It demonstrates that you care about the people you’re attempting to bring on board. This includes the names of their family members, loved ones, significant others, too.
Use Listening as a Tool
Every conversation presents the opportunity to soak up a potential advocate’s perspectives, agendas and more—all of which you need to know to gain influence.
Spread the Love
Once a project’s success is clear, lavish credit upon your supporters. It will encourage these colleagues and team members to support your next initiative.